Yesterday some friends and I rode in the Boys and Girls Clubs of Central Virginia Cycling Challenge. It was held in Crozet, VA, an area just outside of Charlottesville and near the Blue Ridge Mountains. We participated at the 55 mile distance (there were 25 and 75 options as well) and knew to expect a few hills. Expectations were met, if not exceeded.
At around the 40 mile mark, I was climbing a hill when a rider a couple of bikes ahead of me suddenly stopped. With the loss of momentum and some already worn out legs (cramping as well), I fell over in the road. I wasn’t hurt (other than the cramping in my quads) but unknowingly knocked my rear wheel slightly out of place. This caused the wheel to rub against the frame and not spin freely.
At one point during the next 15 miles I thought I heard something rubbing but thought it might just be my brakes and so I pumped them to try to fully release the pads. I struggled the rest of the way, thinking I had just drained myself on the climbs and feeling completely worn out on even relatively flat sections of the ride. I thought I had totally bonked and it wasn’t until we were finished that I realized that the frame rub was dragging me down- literally.
If only I had stopped to spin my wheel, to check on the noise that I thought was a brake rub, the last section of the ride would have been much more enjoyable. If I had only stopped for a minute to check it out, to verify that everything was okay, it would have made the entire day much better. Instead, by ignoring it and pushing on, I pushed myself beyond the point of enjoying the ride and into a mindset of dread and discomfort (perhaps a little too dramatic but I was in a bad mental place for those last 10-15 miles).
Thinking back on this today I realized that this is something we sometimes do in our lives. We have an incident, a crash or a fall, perhaps an argument with a spouse or family member or close friend. We get back up and after a while get back going, but something doesn’t feel right. Something is slowing us down. There is a rub.
What should we do when we sense a rub? Stop, check it out, and fix it if we can. If an argument or action taken has cause us to feel bad about a relationship or just a particular event, we should take the time to figure out what is wrong and fix it. Perhaps something was said that we didn’t like and it is causing the rub. Whether we said it or the other person, find out what can make that rub go away so that the relationship can spin freely again. Talk about it, express the issue, and find a way to make it go away.
Trying to ignore when something doesn’t feel right will only wear us down over time. It will drain our energy, put us in a bad mindset and leave us thinking of a person or relationship in a negative way, and unfairly so since all we may need to do is stop and examine what we can do to fix it.
This is especially true with our kids. Have you ever had an event that you later regretted with your kids? Perhaps you lost your temper or didn’t us a productive approach in dealing with them. It could be due to stress or various other things but at times, most of us have probably had a time when we felt bad after an event. Sure, we may have bounced back up and moved on but did we fix it? Or is the rub still there, and going to cause pain down the road for us or them? Kids seem to bounce back easily from most things but is there an emotional rub that needs to be fixed?
if you ever feel that way about your relationship with your kids, or spouse or other family, friends or even co-workers, take time to stop and verify. Make sure everything is okay and fix what you can. Sometimes it is as simple as letting someone know that you are aware it needs fixing, sometimes it may take some talking through. But whatever it takes, take the time to spin the wheel.
To see the fall, check out http://contour.com/stories/wouldnt-be-a-fall-ride-without-a-fall
For other videos of this ride (and other ones I have posted), go to the Contour Community page and search for “DaddyCast”