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This picture is from the infinity pool at the Virginia Beach Hilton. It is on the roof- 21 stories up. It is quite an amazing view.
The past several years we have taken Winter escapes to the Hilton to enjoy the indoor pool, some chilly walks on the beach and just to get away for the weekend. The outdoor pool has always been closed during the Winter trips and although we have looked at it through the glass doors, we have never been out to it.
When discussing our first Summer trip to the Hilton, the boys both agreed that they would not get into the infinity pool. They thought it was too scary, that you could fall off- yes, the illusion works on them. But, within minutes of being in the pool (and with me going to the edge to check out the view) they were all over it, even leaning over the edge to look down. (NOTE- there is a couple of feet of water catch before the 8 foot glass walls- really no way to legitimately fall over unless someone really, really tried).
Among other fears that have eased with age, the boys were into the ocean as soon as we hit the beach. A couple of years ago we had to struggle to get them to the water’s edge. This time I had to keep reminding them not to go out too far. Granted, a big wave that knocked my youngest down provided a heavy dose of humble pie, but didn’t kill his spirit. Jumping in the breaking waves became sport and aside from the occasional surprise, they had a lot of fun fighting nature.
As a parent, there is always concern for safety. What if the wave knocks them under and the undertow takes them out? They aren’t good swimmers and if they got in over the head I am not sure what they would do? So I stand by and watch. Close enough to keep good tabs on them as they explore their bounds.
That is the balance- to allow them freedom to explore and push the boundaries of their own safe zone yet to keep them safe. You don’t want wallflowers or kids scared of their own shadow. You don’t want the kids that are picked on for not trying things. At the same time, for your own health, you don’t want daredevils.
They may grow up to be anything, but for now, no daredevils. Not sure my parenting heart can take it. Is skydiving in their future? Not as long as I am paying the bills. We’ll stick with tackling the waves (and it was good practice for Beach Week and playing with their cousins who will help them challenge even more boundaries- more work for me!)